How to go about your wedding registry

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How to go about your wedding registry

Congratulations, you’re getting married! And so the months fly by as you frantically try to put together your dream wedding. Months of planning for one day of pure, memorable bliss and, yes, it is worth it.

One of the decisions you’re going to have to make concerns your wedding registry. There are a few ways you can go about setting up a registry that will be specifically suited to you and your spouse-to-be. You can set it up online, directly through a store or personally attach it along with your invite. But, there’s a bit more to it than that. You need to decide on what you want, what you need and how you’re going to ask for it.

And, let’s be honest, when you deciding on a wedding registry, you’re deciding on what gifts you want to receive.


Do you need one?

Well, it would be advisable to have some sort of wedding registry or gift specifications for your guests to follow. Otherwise, you’re leaving yourself vulnerable to a stack of returns and copy-and-paste “thank you for the toaster” messages.

Keep in mind, the engagement party and bridal showers all come with gifts as well. And while you don’t necessarily need a gift registry for those, you would have received generic wedding gifts from those events already. That’s why it’s advised to set a wedding gift registry where you can ask for exactly what it is you and your partner want or need. Be it kitchen appliances for the home, something for personal use or honeymoon-related. “Things” or money are your registry options.

We’ve included money as a wedding registry option because you can decide to use it any way you want. Even if that means buying kitchen furniture anyway. If it’s something you’d rather physically do yourself, there’s nothing wrong with asking for the money your guests were willing to spend on your anyway.


Types of wedding registries

Let’s take a look at the different types of wedding registries that most couples ask for. You should keep in mind, however, that you can actually ask for whatever you prefer at the end of the day. Basically, it comes down to specified gifts or a money registry:

  • Donation to charity: Not everyone likes asking for money or gifts, even for their wedding. Or, the couple already has everything they might want or need. In these scenarios, couples might list a donation to charity as their wedding gift specification.
  • Honeymoon fund: Another money-related wedding registry is contributions towards the honeymoon. When it comes to asking for money at a wedding, they say you should let the guests know where their money is going. You don’t need to tell them that their cash is going towards paying off your credit cards that booked the honeymoon. Just asking for a honeymoon fund contribution will be enough.
  • Traditional home registry: This is where you list the home store where your registry is at or provide a link to the kitchen utensils for sale that you’ve been wanting on an online store registry. By doing it this way, you ensure that there are no double-buys and all your guests can know you’ll at least like their gift.
  • No-registry registry: Yes, this is a thing. Some couples refuse to ask their friends and family for gifts and leave it all in the guests’ hands. You might still get a gift or two and don't be surprised if it’s too of the same waffle makers. Alternatively, you even get such a thing as an “absolutely anything” registry.


A polite way to ask

The whole thing about wedding registries that make them awkward and slightly uncomfortable for the marrying couple is how to ask. It’s slightly less stressful when you’re setting up an online or in-store registry, as you can just add a variety of items to your list and it’s not like you’re directly asking them to get you something.

But when it comes to asking for money, you need to find a polite way to ask. Some people create little rhymes and others choose to specify what the money will be for. It’s important to not make your guests feel like they’re obligated to spend all of their money on you, but rather feel like they’re happy to contribute towards something.

Another tip to make it less awkward for everyone is to offer a wide range of items on your registry (if you’re going the traditional registry route). And by “wide range” we’re referring to the price range. You shouldn’t only have a list of items of R500 and above. Not all of your guests will be in a financial position to buy off your registry and how must that make them feel? Also, by providing a variety of gift options, they can still get the feeling that they’re personally choosing a gift for you.

Now that you have a better idea of how to create your wedding registry, you can go ahead and tick one more thing off of the wedding to-do list.

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